It’s a Saturday night and I’m sitting across from my husband, Brent, on date night at one of our favorite restaurants we haven’t been to in ages. The lights are dim, we’re enjoying the basket of bread and an adult beverage when I look at him and ask “Can I say something honestly?” I see the look of concern on his face as he responds, “How honest?” I feel like it’s something I shouldn’t say out loud but here it goes…“I…don’t…like…to eat out with our children”. There I said it! I love them dearly but let’s be honest, It stresses me out!
Brent has more patience than I do and actually enjoys taking the kids out. Sure once in a blue moon they behave and we enjoy our evening out. But that is a gamble and you really never know what you’re going to get. Kids are not meant to sit still for long periods of time (with my kids, which might mean no longer than 15 minutes). Typically, I end up eating mindlessly, barely tasting my food since I am the one tending to the children, trying to make sure they’re not crawling under the table. And on some occasions, I spend half the time in the bathroom with Mahlia. To spend money on mac & cheese and chicken nuggets when I can make it at home for a fraction of the cost makes me feel ill. And at home I don’t have to worry if my kids are behaving or disturbing anyone else.
Sitting there across from Brent on date night, enjoying a glass of Gran Passione red wine, Garlic Crusted Shrimp Oreganato, I have a new appreciation for eating out and quality time with my husband. The food just tastes better when you don’t have to worry about the children. I’m able to enjoy and savor each bite, and have an adult conversation. We deserve it!
For now I’ll save the nice restaurants for me and the hubs. I am happy to take the kids someplace where they can burn off some energy and are not expected to sit politely through the entire meal. Chic-fil-A or McDonald’s with the indoor playground or perhaps Chucky Cheese is right up their ally!
And now that I’m a stay-at-home mom, I find that I miss getting dressed up to go out. My work attire now consists of baseball caps and yoga pants. I knew I needed a night out when my friend and I were conversing through Snapchat last week. This is the only way we communicate anymore using Snapchats voice changing filters. It makes conversations way more interesting! Tell me we’re not the only ones?! She was curious what I was doing all done up during the week. My hair was curled, full makeup, including lipstick. That was not a normal sight for her. As soon as the words came out of my mouth, “I have an appointment at the Center for Disease Control” I knew…man, I need to get out more!
And I know the Center for Disease Control sounds just awful! I am actually very healthy! I had a tonsillectomy 3 years ago and I am now experiencing reoccurring strep throat which makes me pretty sick when I do get it. But this conversation will have to wait as an adult tonsillectomy requires a blog article all on its own!
So last weekend, everyone was healthy, the stars aligned with babysitters and sleepovers! We were able to dress up, go out and enjoy each other’s company. But you know what? It did not take long at all for me to miss my babies terribly!
One of our rare date night pictures!
Can I get an amen to date nights!